Dear Maggie,

I’m madly in love with my boyfriend, and I think he’s just as madly in love with me. And I probably just have a case of nerves because his best friend’s wife told me he’s planning to ask me to marry him soon. And suddenly I’m in a panic trying to be absolutely sure I know how I want to answer him. I’ve been noticing every little thing about him that bothers me. And noticing new ones I hadn’t even seen before. And wondering if I’m going to make a big mistake. I’m having doubts I never had before. How can I be sure?

Pre-Proposal Jitters

Dear Jitters, (That’s kind of a cute nickname!)

You’re doing this backwards, big time. Don’t begin by looking for reasons to say no, for heaven’s sake. Okay, here’s what you do.